A high-flying health service administrator killed herself because she could not come to terms with the fact she was about to turn 30 without marrying or starting a family, an inquest heard.
Two months before her 30th birthday, she texted her engineer boyfriend, Anton Tsvarev, 30, wishing him ‘all the best for the future’.
He found her body on the floor when he returned to the house they shared. Her family and boyfriend told the hearing of their devastation that the ‘kind and generous’ self-confessed ‘dizzy blonde’ hadn’t lived to see her dreams fulfilled.
After doing well at school, where she enjoyed dancing and playing the violin, Miss Gow studied at Lancaster University where she graduated with a 2:1 in history, the hearing was told. She then secured a job as an administrator at Royal Bolton Hospital.
In a statement read to the hearing, her brother Stephen Best and sister Sarah Davidson said: ‘Her greatest wish was to settle down and get married.’
She had been through three break-ups before meeting Mr Tsvarev in May 2012, they said, and had been very badly affected by the death of her mother Connie, a primary school teacher, from cancer at the age of 66.
The couple moved into a house in Haslingden, Lancashire in 2013, and according to family and friends seemed content. ‘Following the death of her mother, Rachel had a period of independence,’ her siblings’ statement continued.
‘She met Anton and they were both extremely happy. He moved in. They had lots in common. But she could not overcome her previous sadness and felt Anton would leave her.
She was looking forward to turning 30, planning trips to Italy with Anton and going to Vegas for her birthday, she was saving money every month.
‘But the relationship became unstable and they tried to make it work.’
Mr Tsvarev told the hearing in Burnley: ‘Our relationship had a lot of ups and downs due to her insecurities. She constantly felt I was going to leave her but this was not the case.’
Miss Gow went to see a psychologist last September as she struggled to cope with the approaching milestone as well as the anniversary of her mother’s death.
He added that his girlfriend felt that she should be married with children by now and that her siblings were doing better than her. ‘This was something she struggled with,’ he said.
She had also talked about suicide techniques but he had regarded the comments as being ‘in the heat of the moment,’ he added.
He told the court he had left the house after picking some clothes and went to stay somewhere else for a while.
The day before Rachel was found last November 1, the couple went to her father's house to look after his dog while he was away. But in the morning, the couple had an argument over a text message Miss Gow had found on Mr Tsvarev's phone from someone else.
He added: 'I got a text from her wishing me the best for the future. It was common place after an argument so I didn't think anything of it.'
However Mr Tsvarev 'had a really bad feeling' so he decided to go back to Haslingden to see if everything was alright. He said: ' I went into the lounge. The lights were off but the fire was on. I could see her lying on the floor.'
The inquest was told that Anton performed CPR on Miss Gow until emergency services arrived just before 9pm, but Miss Gow was pronounced dead.
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